I mean HONESTLY, we weren't friends before we dated. We weren't friends after we dated. Then we REdated, that was a Big Mess. Its been a few years since we talked, I mean I have seen him on several occasions, and have: blown him off big time/ignored him/ran the other direction/smiled/waved/hoped he didn't see me/was glad when he ignored me. I'm not the kind of girl who wants to stay friends.
I mean isn't that a load of crap? I am not in the market for more guy friends, I have plenty in my real life. Why would I want to grant him an all access pass to my life, when I honestly could care less if I ever see/talk to/hear from him again?
I don't want to. So I didn't. I ignored the REQUEST, he re-requested. So this time I did send a nice message saying thanks for thinking of me, hope you are well, but we aren't Friends so I'm not adding you.
In TRUE DB Triz fashion he wrote back all sad and manipulative. I laughed, because that was confirmation enough that we could NEVER be friends.
Would you grant that annoying EX an all access pass to your life? EVEN if you knew he would totally lurke you page?
♥ Single Girl
*I deleted his name to prevent you from promptly facebook stalking him... I should have left it so you could!
i was literally thinking about this issue this morning. for no reason other than i had an ex do that too me on myspace a couple years ago after we broke up and i ignored the request and he deleted his account. i found him on facebook recently but i would never send him a friend request!
ReplyDeleteNice call. You did the right and smart thing.
ReplyDeleterialeilani: I feel the SAME way. Why would I request an Ex? MAYBE if it was amiable. I love that he deleted his account, its almost like he made it just to find you!
ReplyDeleteYeah if you really don't want to be friends, it's best you don't friend. I guess it all depends on how it ended, what your relationship was like, etc.
ReplyDeletesame thing happened to me, and I blocked him. It was the best feeling. Then they can't see you. I love it!
ReplyDeleteSarah: In my head it was LUKE!!!
ReplyDeleteWas it
tell me tell me
I find it mostly comes from the guy's insecurities. He wants "friendship," because he knows he was an idiot. What he is really asking for is a "You don't say bad things about me to your real friends" clause. Or a "I don't want to bother owning up to what I did, so lets just forget the whole thing happened." The man who demands this of you is an egoist. The "friendship" he offers is as counterfeit as it is self-serving.
ReplyDeleteNow, I'm sounding bitter, so I should mention that I've been on the other end. I once hurt a guy, and he refuses all contact. He doesn't say, "Why can't we be friends still." I respect him for that, and I won't screw up like I did again.
Sooooo TRUE michelle, so true.
ReplyDeleteOk this is hilarious...I wish people would stop requesting once you deny them...get the picture!
ReplyDeleteSadly, I would add, then wish I hadn't, then upload all my cool life pictures- then wish I hadn't. Then delete my facebook profile- prolly par for the course for me.
ReplyDeleteKristen I thought about it...belive me I did...
ReplyDeleteI don't even have to think about it! It is an immediately, NO! I would not accept his cyberspace friendship. Things ended horribly. Why in the world would I want you to be able to stalk my page? I love that you emailed him to set things straight. Amazing!
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